Writing Tips for Women

I’ve worked with over 180 women writers, and here’s what I know for sure:
Most women don’t struggle with talent.
They struggle with permission.

Permission to feel.
Permission to be honest.
Permission to stop editing themselves into something palatable.

So if you’re writing your story, personal, professional, or somewhere beautifully in between, these are my top five writing tips for women, starting with the one that changes everything.

1. Bring Emotion Into Your Writing (This Is the Work)

This is the top tip for a reason. Facts inform. Emotion transforms.

Women are natural storytellers, but we’ve been trained to flatten our feelings — to “keep it together,” to sound reasonable, to stay composed on the page, which shows up as safe writing. Polite writing. Writing that explains instead of letting us feel.

Here’s the shift: Don’t write what happened. Write what it cost you.

What did it feel like in your body?
What were you afraid to say out loud?
What moment still tightens your chest when you think about it?

Emotion doesn’t mean drama. It means honesty.

If your heart isn’t beating faster as you write it, your reader’s won’t either. And that’s the difference between writing that’s read… and writing that’s remembered.

2. Write Like You’re Talking to One Woman

Not the internet.
Not “everyone.”
Not some imaginary critic perched on your shoulder.

One woman.

The one who needs these words at 2 a.m.
The one who thinks she’s alone in her thoughts.
The one who doesn’t want advice — she wants to be understood.

When you write to one woman, your voice softens, deepens, and sharpens all at once. Connection happens there. Always.

3. Stop Trying to Sound Like a “Writer.”

This one’s a permission slip. You don’t need prettier words. You need truer ones.

Some of the most powerful lines I’ve ever read sound like something whispered over coffee. If you wouldn’t say it out loud, question whether it belongs on the page.

Your natural voice is not unprofessional. It’s your superpower.

4. Let the Messy Draft Exist

First drafts are not auditions. They’re explorations.

Messy writing means you’re doing it right. Clarity doesn’t come before you write; it shows up because you did. Give yourself room to ramble, contradict yourself, circle back, and stumble into truth.

Polish is a second date. Not the first.

5. Trust That Your Story Is Enough

You don’t need a bigger trauma, a cleaner ending, or a dramatic breakthrough to justify writing your story.

Your lived experience counts. Your perspective matters. Your voice carries weight, especially for the women who come after you.

Write from where you are, not where you think you should be.

Final Thought

When women write with emotion, honesty, and courage, something powerful happens:
We stop performing.
We start connecting.

And connection... real, human, soul-level connection, is what changes lives.

Including your own.